Let River Heal You
You are smart and your life looks great on paper. But when it comes to intimacy and connection, something isn’t adding up.
Maybe the scripts you learned about sex and relationships don’t actually work for you. Maybe past harm is making you shrink your possibilities. Maybe you’re curious to see what happens if you stop performing and start exploring.
I work with men — and especially the brainy, analytical, high-achieving types—who are done with surface-level fixes and ready to do the deeper work.
I get that healing is a loaded word. With me, healing isn’t about brokenness and victim-hood. It is about skill-building and expansion. With someone who gets the complexity, won’t bullshit you, and speaks your language.
Why Work With Me
I am a sex and relationship expert who left science and math behind. At one point, I was a professional chess player studying theoretical physics and researching gravitational waves at places like MIT and Caltech, with the dream of discovering secrets of the universe.
I know what it’s like to enjoy abstraction, to want frameworks and models, to need things to make sense.
And I also know that intimacy requires something beyond analysis—it requires presence, vulnerability, and a willingness (and some help) to sit with what’s uncomfortable.
I work especially well with analytical and neurodivergent folks who need both the intellectual framework (the physics of how intimacy works) AND the touch-based practice (actually feeling it in your body).
If you’re used to solving complex problems but keep hitting a wall when it comes to intimacy and connection—that’s exactly where I can help.
About River
In the past decade:
- I have developed and been teaching my own sexuality model.
- I have been published in popular sexuality, polyamory, and kink publications.
- I have presented at many sexuality conferences in front of thousands of audiences.
- I been interviewed by several prominent news media on sex and relationships.
Most importantly, I have been helping hundreds of people find hope and a new way to claim their sexual and relational life that works for them.
Who Is This For?
You might be here because…
- The masculinity you inherited doesn’t fit anymore, and you’re curious about what else is possible—but you don’t have a roadmap
- Your sex life feels performative or disconnected, and you want to understand desire (yours and others’) without shame or pressure
- Past experiences still haunt you—whether you survived harm or caused it, and you need to heal before you can build something new
- You’re curious about kink, polyamory, queerness, or other expansions, but you want to explore safely with someone who actually knows the territory
- You’ve done therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts, but you need something more embodied, more real, with someone who won’t treat you like you’re broken
- You tend to intellectualize your feelings, and you need someone who can meet you there but also help you drop into your body and feel what’s actually happening
You would be a good match for me:
- If you are someone interested in knowledge and understanding, but also like to get out of your head and into your body.
- If you are looking for an authentic connection that leaves you with lasting impact.
- If you are ready to claim your agency for the next chapter of your sexual and relational life.
If you need both the framework to understand what’s happening and the guidance to stay present when it gets messy—we’re a good match.
Offerings
Please note that every client begins working with me as a coaching client. I work with only a few clients at a time to ensure depth, flexibility, and personal attention throughout your journey.
1. Sex & Relationship Coaching: Unpack the Patterns, Build New Skills
For people who want clarity, tools, and support to navigate intimacy differently
2. Restorative Touch & Cuddling: Rewire What Safety Feels Like
Invitation-only — for established coaching clients ready for deeper embodied work
3. Transformative Connecting: Long-Term Deep Work
Invitation-only — for established coaching clients ready for sustained transformation
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🍄 Psychedelic Integration Support
Many people find that psychedelic experiences—whether with plant medicines, synthetics, or other consciousness-altering substances—surface material around sexuality, relationships, trauma, and identity that needs skilled support to process and integrate.
I offer coaching and somatic support for people working with insights from psychedelic experiences, particularly when those insights relate to sex, gender, relational patterns, or healing from harm (both suffering and causing). This includes preparation, and post-experience integration sessions.
“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.”
Winnie the Pooh
My clients say…
“I came to River feeling like I’d tried everything—therapy, books, workshops—but I was still stuck in the same patterns. River helped me see the mechanics of what was happening, but also helped me stay present with the feelings I’d been avoiding my whole life. I’m in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had, and for the first time, I actually trust myself."
“I spent years thinking I just needed to understand myself better and figure out the ‘right’ framework. River helped me see that I was using analysis as armor. Working together, I learned how to actually feel what was happening in my body. I still love theory, but now I can also just… be with someone. That’s changed everything."
“I contacted River after realizing I’d caused harm in past relationships and had no idea how to stop repeating the pattern. I was terrified of being judged, but River met me exactly where I was—no shame, just clear-eyed work on what needed to change. I’ve rebuilt my understanding of boundaries and accountability, and what it means to show up for someone.”
Final Note: Why “Let River Heal You”?
Rivers don’t rush. They don’t force. They move around obstacles, carve new paths, and eventually—always—reach the ocean.
Healing works the same way. It’s not linear. It’s not fast. But if you’re willing to trust the process, to let yourself flow rather than fight, you’ll get there.
I’m here to walk beside you on that journey.
— River
Ready to start?
Still have questions? Check out the FAQ page and email me at hi[at]letriverhealyou[dot]com and I’ll get back to you.