Let River Heal You
You’ve built a life that looks good on paper. But intimacy? Connection? That part feels like you’re winging it.
Maybe the scripts you learned about masculinity and sex don’t actually work. Maybe past harm is still running the show. Maybe you’re curious about what’s possible if you stop performing and start exploring.
I work with men and masculine folks—especially the geeky, analytical, high-achieving types—who are done with surface-level fixes and ready to do the deeper work.
Not therapy. Not another optimization hack. Actual healing, skill-building, and expansion. With someone who gets the complexity, won’t bullshit you, and speaks your language.
Why Work With Me
My formal educational background is in physics and analytical political science. I know what it’s like to live in your head, to want frameworks and models, to need things to make sense.
And I also know that the real work of intimacy requires something beyond analysis—it requires presence, risk, and a willingness to sit with what’s uncomfortable.
I work especially well with geeky, analytical, neurodivergent folks who need both the intellectual framework (the physics of how intimacy works) AND the embodied practice (actually feeling it in your body).
If you’re used to solving complex problems but keep hitting a wall when it comes to intimacy and connection—that’s exactly where I can help.
About River
I’m a queer non-binary Irani-American immigrant who spent years trying to use my brain alone to change the world. I studied physics and political science at MIT, worked in physics labs AND spent years in social justice movements, but kept circling back to the same question:
Why do we keep fucking up our connections?
Who Is This For?
You might be here because…
- The masculinity you inherited doesn’t fit anymore, and you’re curious about what else is possible—but you don’t have a roadmap
- Your sex life feels performative or disconnected, and you want to understand desire (yours and others’) without the shame or pressure
- Past experiences still haunt you—whether you survived harm or caused it, and you need to heal before you can build something new
- You’re curious about kink, polyamory, queerness, or other expansions, but you want to explore safely with someone who actually knows the territory
- You’ve done therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts—but you need something more embodied, more real, with someone who won’t treat you like you’re broken
- You tend to intellectualize your feelings—and you need someone who can meet you there but also help you drop into your body and feel what’s actually happening
This work is especially good for:
- Men and masculine folks in tech, engineering, science, or other high-demand fields who are used to solving problems intellectually but know this requires something different
- People who are geeky, analytical, or neurodivergent and need someone who can meet you in the complexity without dumbing it down—someone who gets that you need both the framework and the practice
- Folks who are established and ready to actually invest in themselves—not as another self-optimization project, but as real, messy, human healing work
If you need both the framework to understand what’s happening and the guidance to stay present when it gets messy—we’re a good match.
Offerings
Please note that every client begins working with me as a coaching client. I work with only a few clients at a time to ensure depth, flexibility, and personal attention throughout your journey.
1. Sex & Relationship Coaching: Unpack the Patterns, Build New Skills
For people who want clarity, tools, and support to navigate intimacy differently
2. Restorative Touch & Cuddling: Rewire What Safety Feels Like
Invitation-only — for established coaching clients ready for deeper embodied work
3. Conscious Connecting: Long-Term Deep Work
Invitation-only — for established coaching clients ready for sustained transformation
“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.”
Winnie the Pooh
My clients say…
“I came to River feeling like I’d tried everything—therapy, books, workshops—but I was still stuck in the same patterns. River helped me see the mechanics of what was happening, but also helped me stay present with the feelings I’d been avoiding my whole life. I’m in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had, and for the first time, I actually trust myself."
“I spent years thinking I just needed to understand myself better and figure out the ‘right’ framework. River helped me see that I was using analysis as armor. Working together, I learned how to actually feel what was happening in my body. I still love theory, but now I can also just… be with someone. That’s changed everything."
“I contacted River after realizing I’d caused harm in past relationships and had no idea how to stop repeating the pattern. I was terrified of being judged, but River met me exactly where I was—no shame, just clear-eyed work on what needed to change. I’ve rebuilt my understanding of boundaries and accountability, and what it means to show up for someone.”
Final Note: Why “Let River Heal You”?
Rivers don’t rush. They don’t force. They move around obstacles, carve new paths, and eventually—always—reach the ocean.
Healing works the same way. It’s not linear. It’s not fast. But if you’re willing to trust the process, to let yourself flow rather than fight, you’ll get there.
I’m here to walk beside you on that journey.
— River
Ready to start?
Still have questions? Check out the FAQ page and email me at hi[at]letriverhealyou[dot]com and I’ll get back to you.