About River
I’m a queer non-binary Irani-American immigrant who spent years trying to use my brain alone to change the world. I studied physics and political science at MIT, worked in physics labs AND spent years in social justice movements, but kept circling back to the same question:
Why do we keep fucking up our connections?
The answer wasn’t in another cosmological discovery, social movement or policy change—it was in the unhealed wounds we carry around sex, relationships, and intimacy. So I trained as a sex and relationship coach, spent years learning about trauma, embodiment, and relational healing, and built a practice for people who are ready to do the hard work of becoming whole.
Here’s what you should know about how I work:
I am endlessly fascinated by patterns, systems, and feedback loops. But unlike physics, there are no equations that solve for connection. Healing is messy, nonlinear, and requires you to feel things you’ve probably been avoiding. I’ll help you understand the mechanics, but I’ll also help you stay present when it gets uncomfortable.
I work especially well with people who are analytical, neurodivergent, or geeky—folks who need both the intellectual framework and the embodied practice. People who want to understand why things happen the way they do, but who also know that understanding alone won’t fix it.
Experience Highlights
Certifications & Specialized Training:
- Certified Sex & Relationship Coach
- Certified in Somatic Embodiment & Regulation Strategies
- Completed Sexual Attitude Reassessment (SAR)
- Completed Surrogate Partner Training
- Sexual Harm Healing & Prevention Specialist
Speaking & Education:
- Educator and speaker on polyamory, kink/BDSM, LGBTQI+ issues, and sexual liberation
- Presented at dozens of national conferences including Creating Change and Sex Down South
- Guest lecturer at 50+ colleges and universities
Published Work:
- Co-Developer & Facilitator of the Sexual Healing Integration Model (RASHIM)
- Contributing writer for Trans Sex, Polyamory for Dummies, and Kink for Dummies
- Featured expert in CNN, USA Today, and Racebaitr
Ready to start?
Still have questions? Check out the FAQ page or email me at hi[at]letriverhealyou[dot]com and I’ll get back to you.
“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.”
Rumi